tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-67076380673983785102024-03-04T20:29:49.359-08:00Tiffany's Random Thoughtstiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.comBlogger72125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-32881295505823334032011-04-17T19:58:00.000-07:002011-04-21T06:14:12.763-07:00What Was I Thinking?<span style="color: #cc0000;">Edited to add: I wrote this right before Mama Kat's writing workshop prompts came out and it happened to fit perfectly for the "describe a phone call" prompt. So I'm cheating and using it for that.</span><br />
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This is a tough post for me, but it's something I have to do. I need to let this all out somewhere.<br />
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First of all, here's a little background...<br />
About 13 years ago, I was home from college for the summer. I was heartbroken from my first taste of love. I was a 20 year old mess. After a long, miserable summer I had decided that I just needed to get on with life and start dating again. That's when I met "S". To make a long story as short as possible, I fell in love. We had a very volatile relationship. He drank. A lot. But at the time, so did I (I was in college) so it didn't seem too much of a red flag. Ok, it was a big flashing neon sign, but I was young and desperate to be in love. We stayed together through my years in college and then we moved back to my hometown and rented a place together and later he bought us a house there. When he was sober, we got along great. He was my best friend and we truly clicked. We loved to <strike>argue</strike> have long in depth conversations. We challenged each other. I really loved to be around him and it didn't really matter what we were doing, we just enjoyed each other. And then there was the drinking. He was a mean drunk. Not physically. He never laid a hand on me. (although I was the only thing...there were holes in walls, broken furniture, ect) But he would yell and scream and rant at me. All his frustrations would get taken out on me. In the morning, he would be sorry and 2 days later we would be back to normal. 4 days later it would happen again. It was a vicious cycle that never ended and left me emotionally tormented. I wasn't in a unique position...family members of alcoholics deal with this on a daily basis. I was stuck. I loved him and cared about him, but I couldn't change him. Believe me, I tried. Finally, 6 years later, I somehow managed to leave. I left fast and without warning. Basically, I ran like hell and never looked back. I stopped answering calls and wouldn't tell him where I was. I felt like I escaped.<br />
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I jumped into a new relationship almost immediately. I didn't mean to, but I think I knew that I would be tempted to go back and being in a new relationship kept me away from him. (I had tried leaving a few times before and always went back) Leaving him was the hardest thing I had ever done. I hated him for not being able to put down the bottle. I hated myself for staying as long as I did. I hated myself for still caring about him no matter what he dished out to me. I hated myself for abandoning him and not being strong enough to get us both through it. I did the only thing I was strong enough to do. I completely blocked him and the past 6 years from my memory and thoughts and moved on like those years never existed. I moved on. I had a family. I thought I was happy. <br />
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Then shit happened. <a href="http://tiffany1377.blogspot.com/2011/02/back-story.html">My world fell apart</a>. <br />
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In the months that followed, I tried to find myself and put myself back together. One night I re-read some of my old journals and came across some entries from when S and I were together. It all started coming back to me. In a moment of weakness, I made a mistake. I called him. Dumb, dumb, dumb. I don't know why I did it. Loneliness, guilt, soul searching...I was just lost and somehow I knew that I would get some answers from him. So we talked and talked and talked some more. We fell right back into our friendship and banter. He made me feel good and I realized how much I missed him. He told me he grew up. He told me he changed. Told me that messing up with me was the biggest regret he had. I knew it was possible, but unlikely. But I'm a sucker. We went to a movie. We texted. We hung out. Then, I got scared. It was getting too comfortable and I wasn't ready. He said he understood and hoped someday we could have a chance, but he realized that I needed my time and space. Quite honestly, I just had some little feelings that he hadn't change as much as he led on and I am not putting myself and my daughter through that. I just won't do it. I felt guilty (again) though. <br />
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That was over a month ago. We haven't talked since. Occasionally I get a text from him, and I have responded with short and to the point replies. <br />
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And then my phone rang.<br />
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Last night at 10:30pm, I get a phone call from him. I answered b/c I hadn't talked to him in awhile and it wasn't like him to call. (texting is more his style)<br />
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He was drunk. I should have hung up right then, but I didn't. Dumb, dumb, dumb. I listened. I listened to him ramble and slur and beg. I listened to him confess that I am the only person he has ever loved. I listened to him call me an asshole. I basically listened to a flashback of 10 years ago. I finally told him I couldn't listen anymore and hung up. He called over and over and I sent the calls to voicemail. He texted and I ignored him. <br />
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I slept like shit. <br />
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I hate alcoholism. HATE it. It has robbed him. I know that he is an amazing person with a huge heart. Having a relationship with an alcoholic is like being in a relationship with two different people. One that you love and one that you hate. You can't separate the two of them no matter how much you want to. You can't fix it and it doesn't just go away. I spent 6 years trying to save him from himself and I almost lost myself in the fight. Today I'm sad and pissed off. I'm sad that he hasn't found his way out yet. I'm sad that he just doesn't see it and continues to self destruct. I'm pissed that I almost got sucked back in and I'm pissed that I still care.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-82506635283225649042011-04-14T16:15:00.000-07:002011-04-14T16:21:43.094-07:00What's Missing Tells MoreThey say that the contents of a woman's purse says a lot about her. Mama Kat's writing prompt this week was to tell what the contents of your purse say about you. I started to write about this and decided that it just wasn't very insightful. The contents of my purse are pretty sparse and predictable. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that the things NOT in my purse say a lot more about me. <br />
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What's missing...<br />
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1. Tissues and Wet Wipes. I'm a mom and I should have these things, but I don't. What's worse is that I know I will need them and I still neglect to put them in. I don't know why...no clue. For crying out loud, my mom has Wet Wipes in her purse and she doesn't even have a toddler. Whenever I am out with my mom and my child, I have to ask her for Wet Wipes for my kid. Fail. Sadly, this is very typical of me. I am just not a prepared sort of girl. I figure that anywhere I go there is bound to be a bathroom with papertowels and water. Maybe this is why I was a girl scout drop out.<br />
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2. Credit Cards. Yup, not a one. I got myself into trouble with credit cards and I have since sliced and diced them all. The closest thing I have is my debit card. I'm actually pretty proud of this even though it means I have missed out on some great purchases. I'm not good at self discipline and I am a compusive shopper, so this goes in the win category.<br />
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3. Toys, games, ect. Once again, I'm just not very prepared. I know there are times when they would be nice to keep the little one occupied, but I just don't do it. Part of it is because I just don't like having a 30 pound purse, part of it is because I am a slacker. <br />
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4. Medicine. You would think I would learn to keep some Tylenol in there, but I never do. But hey, if I get a headache I'm sure my mom has some in her purse. <br />
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5. Makeup. Not because I don't need it, but because I just don't have time to mess with it when I am out. Oh, I may have some chapstick, but that is all. I am a horse girl. I live on the farm and don't wear make up everyday. It's not because I am self confident, it's because I just don't have the time to care most days. <br />
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6. Money. This one just sucks.<br />
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7. A Calendar. I used to have one, now I have my blackberry and without it I would be completely lost. It's a little crazy how much I rely on that thing. I'm not sure I would know any of my friends' numbers without it. I certainly wouldn't know when or where I was supposed to be most days. It's a crutch and I've come to terms with that. <br />
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So there you have it, I'm an unprepared slacker. In reality, my purse has very little in it and most days I just grab my wallet and leave my purse behind. On the other hand, I could live for a week out of what is in my car...it has EVERYTHING stashed in it. I don't really know what all this says about me...maybe I need to take my purse to therapy and have it's contents (or lack thereof) analyzed by a professional. <br />
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</div>I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing. My parents tried and tried to convince me to leave Charlie with them and go on my own, but the thought of being that far from her was paralyzing. Not only that, but I really wanted us to have the experience together. I was terrified, but the fear was all for nothing. We had a fantastic time and the traveling, while somewhat never-racking, was quite smooth. My little girl was a champ on all the flights (6 in all) and I managed to keep track of her and our luggage without losing my sanity. <br />
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I can't even begin to describe all the amazing things that happened on our trip, but it was an experience I will never forget. Besides, if I do forget any of it, I have a couple hundred pictures to remind me. I won't bore you with all the flowery descriptions and details of everything we did, but I will say this...Hawaii is by far the most beautiful place I have ever been in my life. It is the closest thing to paradise I can even imagine. I would go back in a heartbeat (if I could afford it). <br />
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</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">In the end, it turned out to be a priceless experience for me. I feel somewhat empowered by it all. I am a newly single mom and I live very close to my friends and family. I am lucky to have such a strong support group so close by, but sometimes it leaves me feeling dependant. Sometimes I question my ability to be a good mom without having to constantly lean on others. This trip made me realize that I can do things on my own and be quite competent. Was I nervous? SHIT YES. Did we survive? Of course. Did we rock Hawaii and have a great time? HELLS TO THE YEAH!!</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
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Hallelujah! <br />
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Glowing.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-63912524459999714342011-03-14T20:53:00.000-07:002011-03-14T20:53:13.735-07:00Dear Charlie<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOrVtrVSP0YXuajzMrIIX9Ur1Ir43wHQ0G4uGUQ5qR58IYy2LfhRDyz3AiCjtLGy02q7bdrYh_G5_EPX8RPmcDzXhMhX3azFrX-m1o0sxMH9J5ir8MahBBZNfvinsFZp0iHCR3QiY1di0/s1600/100_1155.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" q6="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOrVtrVSP0YXuajzMrIIX9Ur1Ir43wHQ0G4uGUQ5qR58IYy2LfhRDyz3AiCjtLGy02q7bdrYh_G5_EPX8RPmcDzXhMhX3azFrX-m1o0sxMH9J5ir8MahBBZNfvinsFZp0iHCR3QiY1di0/s320/100_1155.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;">* This picture really isn't this old...I just didn't set the date on my camera...dur.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div>One of the things I've struggled with lately is how to be honest with my daughter, yet still keep things age appropriate. It's just me and her now. I want to keep a very open relationship with her and above all I want to make sure she knows that she can trust me. I've been very careful not to lie to her about her father's death, but at the same time I haven't been completely open with her. I can't. Someday I will have to find a way to explain to her that he chose to take his own life, I just don't think that at three she is ready to understand that. I've tried to figure out how to balance it all and I've come up with a compromise of sorts. While I don't think my idea is completely original (I think I have heard bits and pieces of others with similar ideas), I still maintain that the idea is pretty kick ass.<br />
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I've always like to journal and blog, so I am going to use it to my advantage. I'm going to start a new journal. I'm calling it "Dear Charlie." I'm going to write letters to her in hopes that someday she can read them and it will give us both a starting ground to talk about all the things life throws at you. I can tell her what I am going through right now...how I am feeling about things right now. Then, someday, when she is ready to understand, it will give her insight and remind me of how I was feeling "back then". I want to tell her about my college experiences...yes, even some of the not so proud moments, in hopes that she learns from them. And even if she doesn't learn from them, at least she will know that her mom did some really dumb things, so there isn't anything she should ever be ashamed to come to me about. I want to tell her how much she amazes me on a day basis, so that when she's older and goes through moments (hopefully short ones) of hating me, she'll have a reminder of how much I truly care. I want to write little snippets of happy or funny memories so that one day we can both look back and laugh and reminisce together. <br />
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There's another reason for all of this. I keep struggling with how I didn't really know my husband. I honestly don't know how he felt about me. I don't understand what he was going through or what he was feeling up to point where he decided that it just wasn't worth going on. It kills me. Someday my daughter is going to struggle with that too. She is going to wonder, like I do, why he didn't love us enough to stay with us. I know, I know...that's not the right way to look at it and you really can't take it that way. Right or wrong, it fucks with you just the same. I need her to know, that while I can't give her the answers to explain what was going on in her dad's head, I can leave her with undeniable proof that her mom loves her more than anything. If, God forbid, something would ever happen to me to take me from this world before my daughter is old enough to know that, I want to leave her with my words. My words letting her know just how smart, beautiful, loving and amazing she truly is. My words reminding her that I love her more than I ever knew it possible to love someone. I want to leave her with my hopes and dreams for her. I want to leave her advice in case I'm not here to give it. <br />
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I hope I have years and years to write these letters to her and I hope that one day we will get the chance to read them together. tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-73307596392636689572011-03-13T19:14:00.000-07:002011-03-13T19:14:19.982-07:00HowHow can you love someone and hate someone so much all at the same time?<br />
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How can you act so strong on the outside that everyone else believes it (even yourself most days), even though you are dying on the inside?<br />
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How can you mourn someone that betrayed you? Even though a part of you hates them, deep down you know that you still love them(and somehow you hate yourself for hating them and hate yourself for loving them...all at the same time. <br />
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How do you know who to turn to when the one person you want to talk to, need to talk to, is gone?<br />
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It's been a rough day. I've been sick for a week (hence the lack of posting). It's been almost 6 months that he's been gone. It seems like it's been a lifetime and yet it feels like it was yesterday. I was so angry at first that I couldn't cry. I was ashamed that I couldn't be sad. Now I am sad and I feel stupid to cry over someone who wronged me in so many ways. No matter what emotion I am feeling (and there are about 100 different ones a day), I feel like it is wrong. I'm all over the place. I feel torn and broken. I am turning to all the wrong things in hope of distraction from the emotions I don't know how to face. I'm tired. Physically and emotionally. If I wasn't sick I would probably go out and find someone to distract me, but I just don't have the energy. So instead I am sitting here being haunted by me.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-92077044001164281322011-03-05T05:45:00.000-08:002011-03-05T06:28:43.370-08:00Back Off My Taco!!Pardon me while I bitch about stupidity for a bit. I heard about yet another lawsuit against a fast food restaurant and it really just pisses me off. We all have heard about <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liebeck_v._McDonald's_Restaurants">the lady who sued McDonalds because her coffee was too hot</a> and the more recent <a href="http://www.worldnewsheardnow.com/happy-meals-cause-mcdonald%E2%80%99s-lawsuit/5043/">lawsuit over happy meals.</a> I think these (along with a long list of others) are just ridiculous. But now people have pushed me too far. They are messing with one of my favorite late night stops.<br /><br />Taco Bell<br /><br />I do love me some Taco Bell.<br /><br />Now my beloved source of cheap, yet oh so delicious, tacos is being sued over the quality of ingredients in their food. WTF?!?!<br /><br />Basically, some <strike>douche bag </strike> well meaning citizen is suing Taco Bell because they claim that their menu items contain beef when, in reality, the beef has so many fillers that it does not meet USDA requirements. <a href="http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/01/25/wheres-beef-taco-bell-sued-ingredients/">See details here</a>.<br /><br />Are you freaking kidding me? Can we all just say "DUH".<br /><br />Okay, let's think rationally about this. Their menu items start at $.89 and they don't have anything priced over $3. What exactly do you expect on such a budget? Do you think that something priced so ridiculously cheap is really a quality product? Frankly, I don't care about the quality of beef in my taco. It tastes FANTASTIC. If you want quality, pony up the money and go to a real restaurant. Or better yet, cook your own food. <br /><br />I'm begging here...stop this nonsense. Here's the deal...this lawsuit, win or lose, is going to cost Taco Bell money. They have to pay for lawyers, settlements and then advertising to fix their public image. We all know what happens next. Who is going to pay for this? Me. That's right. Next thing you know, the price of 4am tacos will go up and my late night craving will cost me extra coin. Another possibility is that they will increase the quality of their product and the price will skyrocket. <br /><br />I don't want a quality taco...I want my .$99 taco just the way it is.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-39675564405147159642011-03-02T23:21:00.000-08:002011-03-03T06:43:05.054-08:0010 "Must Haves" for SpringToday's post is inspired by <a href="http://www.mamakatslosinit.com/">MamaKat</a> 's writer's workshop prompt, "Share 10 'Must Haves' for Spring"
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<br />When I first saw this prompt, my mind immediately went to flip-flops, bikini's, ect. Yeah, yeah...who doesn't need those. The more I thought about it though, the more I decided that my "must haves" for this spring are less on the consumer side of things. The list is a bit random, but you really shouldn't expect anything else.
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<br />So here they are... My 10 "Must Haves" for Spring (in no particular order)
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<br />#1. Motivation. This winter (<a href="http://tiffany1377.blogspot.com/2011/02/back-story.html">and recent events in my life</a>) have killed my motivation. I always battle the winter blahs and this year has been worse. Once this craptastic weather breaks, I need to get my butt in gear and get back to living.
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<br />#2. Forgiveness. I need to forgive him and myself. I could write a book on this one thing alone.
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<br />#3. Trust. Something tells me that this isn't something that I can just pick up at the local Wal-Mart and I am guessing that it isn't something I will have by the end of Spring. However, I will start trying. I honestly don't know if I will ever be able to trust a man again, not completely. Not only that, but I am beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to trust myself again. Trust myself to make good decisions, trust myself to truly see what is in front of my face, trust myself to be able to make it as a single mom.
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<br />#4. Snuggles. Who doesn't need some good snuggling? It's one of those often taken for granted things you have in a relationship. A good movie is so much better when you have someone to lean on and cuddle with. I hear you can find this on craigslist, but that's just way too creepy. I'll stick with my puppy for now.
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<br />#5. $1 million dollars. Yeah I know, money can't buy happiness. Probably true, but in the name of science, I would really like to test this theory. No? Well this is my damn list, so shut it.
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<br />#6. Common Sense. No, not for me. I already have some. What I would like, is to have a bag full of it so I could pass it out to the hordes of people who are severely lacking it. Holy shit, they are everywhere and I really would like to have a nice spring where I don't have to deal with moronic dipshits.
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<br />#7. Sex. Don't judge me. I'm in my 30's and maybe I'm a bit bitter and jaded, but that doesn't mean I don't have a damn pulse.
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<br />#8. A clone. I've only been a single working mom for 5 months and it's hard work. I could seriously benefit from having another one of me to help with the load.
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<br />#9. Nap-time. I would love to have a 2 or 3 hour nap-time everyday. You know, one without interruptions. I could even multi-task and nap while tanning...two birds, one stone.
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<br />#10. Screw it, I'm adding flip-flops to the list. I know I said I was staying away from the typical consumer list, but I DO need a good pair of flip-flops.
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<br /><a href="http://www.mamakatslosinit.com/" target="_blank"><img src="http://i913.photobucket.com/albums/ac331/mamakatslosinit/workshop-button-1.png" alt="Mama’s Losin’ It" />tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-68057925285153108382011-02-28T18:16:00.000-08:002011-02-28T19:21:37.406-08:00Over-imagination and my 4:00am VisitorI'll admit it up front...I'm kind of a chicken. I hate being alone at night. Ever since I was a little girl, I hated being alone at night. Every creak and noise caused me to freeze in my bed, terrified of what was lurking just outside my door. I never really outgrew it.<br /><br />Over the past few months I have been adjusting quite well to living without another adult in the household. I have been able to sleep at night, haven't gotten scared and pretty much have started to feel a little bit like a bad ass.<br /><br />Until last night.<br /><br />Last night it stormed. A lot. The daughter and I drove home late from a friend's house and it was just an eerie sort of night. Lots of thunder and lightening and creepy, patchy fog. We got home a little after ten and the house was dark. I don't mind storms, but I HATE coming home to a dark house. Hate it. The wee one hates thunder more than I hate dark houses. It reduces her to a quivering, scared little mouse. Needless to say, we both ended up in my bed. Her cowering under the covers and me trying to soothe her and play protector from the angry skies.<br /><br />I must have been pretty convincing because it didn't take long for her to fall asleep. I curled up beside her with a book and waited for sleep to overtake me.<br /><br />It wasn't happening.<br /><br />I couldn't fall asleep. I don't know if it was the change in temperature or the moisture, but my house was creaking like an eighty year old's joints. It sounded like people were walking all over outside my door. I KNEW that it was just house noises. I KNEW this. Yet for some reason, fear and irrational thought overtook me and I found myself with the covers up to my chin, eyes wide open, almost paralyzed in fear. This went on for hours. I just couldn't turn it off and even worse, the longer I lay there, the worse the fear got. So I did what any self-respecting, bad ass girl would do.<br /><br />I called my daddy.<br /><br />Like a 7 year old needing someone to check under the bed and in the closet. I know, pathetic right? Don't answer....I know.<br /><br />But you know what? He came and everything was fine (which logically, I knew). Was he mad that I woke him up at some insane hour? Not at all. He even insisted of sleeping on my couch the rest of the night so I could get some sleep. Now granted he lives next door, so I didn't drag him from far away, but it was 4am and I am sure that it wasn't on the top of his list of things to do.<br /><br />So today I am feeling a little sleep deprived, embarassed and a whole lot less like a bad ass, but I am feeling very lucky and very loved. Even so, next time I'll just leave more lights on.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-45243844606668722692011-02-27T21:19:00.000-08:002011-02-27T21:49:48.715-08:00The Back StoryI'm not even sure where to begin. I started this blog shortly after getting married. I've talked about my hubby, his kids from his first marriage and then about the arrival of our own daughter (along with all kinds of other random stuff). Then life happened. I got busy. I got wrapped up in my life and quit blogging. I was raising three kids, working full time and trying to do all the other things in life that we all do. During that time, things got kinda rough around here. Hubby bounced from job to job. Money was tight, but there was always a wealth of stress to go around. I don't know when the marriage fell apart, but if I am <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">brutally</span> honest I guess the problems were there from the beginning, I just didn't want to see them. On the outside we looked like the perfect family; nice house, cute kids and oh so in love. Eh, how the mind can deceive. <br /><br />Looking back there were always signs. Signs I <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">subconsciously</span> chose to ignore. Sometimes I feel like I was in a fantasy world where nothing was real. I have always been a glass half full kind of girl and now I just feel dumb. I mean some of the signs were BIG. In flashing neon. <br /><br />Without going into more detail then you need or want to know, here's how it all played out in the end. In October 2010, I found out that hubby cheated on me. With someone I know. 10+ years our junior. I left that night with my daughter to stay with a friend. When I couldn't get a hold of him on his phone the next day, I sent my friend's hubby (also my hubby's best friend) to go talk to him. What he found was something no one should have to find.<br /><br />Now I am left trying to muddle through the hand I've been dealt. It's been almost 5 months and I am starting to feel like I am coming out of the fog. Not completely, but at least it is a start. I can't explain the roller coaster of emotions I have on a daily basis. Everyone deals with loss and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">every one's</span> experience is unique, but I haven't been able to find anyone who has been through something like this. I know they are out there, but I haven't come across them yet. I'd like to though. <br /><br />I think I'll leave it at that for now. I just thought you should know some history to be able to fully understand upcoming posts. Don't fret though...I am not all gloom and doom. Like I said, I am starting to get my life back together. And even though a part of me feels hurt and jaded, I think I am <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">still</span> a glass half full kind of girl at heart. My posts are not all going to center around this event in my life. I want it to be about moving forward and finding myself again. Me as a whole and not as someone <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">else's</span> half. I want to post about the good stuff in life; the funny and the ridiculous; the stuff that pisses me off. (and as I venture back into the murky dating waters again, I am sure that I will have plenty of material)tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-47488417486477003682011-02-24T21:00:00.000-08:002011-02-24T21:13:05.079-08:00Changed My MindWell, I was planning on starting a new blog but I spent two hours trying to come up with a name for it and got nowhere. I decided that there isn't really any reason to start over. I edited this one a bit and will just start adding to this one. What can I say? I'm lazy.<br /><br />If you've been here before, you know that I am pretty random with my posts. I usually just write whatever happens to be bouncing around in my head. I MAY try to be a little more organized this time around...then again, probably not. I try to write fun or thought provoking posts and in the past I have tried not to make my posts too "diary" like. I think that may change a bit. Recent events in my life have been pretty dramatic. I've been faced with things I never thought I would experience and I think I need to share them here. I hope you will hang around and give me a chance.<br /><br />Check back soon for my next post...tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-20092007972120358422011-02-23T15:09:00.000-08:002011-02-23T15:11:46.294-08:00New VentureJust a quick post....<br /><br />My life has been turned upside down by recent events...I am going to start a new blog very soon...I am hoping my former followers will check out the new blog as soon as I have it up and running. Check back soon for details.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-5283608821877978202009-03-17T06:31:00.000-07:002009-03-17T06:38:42.958-07:00Dear Obama<div align="center"><span style="font-family:georgia;font-size:85%;color:#ff0000;">***Disclaimer**** </span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:georgia;font-size:85%;color:#ff0000;">This was emailed to me. It is a forward and I don't know where it originated, but it is damn funny....and sadly true.<br /></span><br /><br />Dear President Obama,<br /><br />I wish to thank you for helping my neighbors with their mortgage payments. You know the one's down the street that in the good times refinanced their house several times and bought SUV's, ATV's, RV"s, a pool, a big screen, two Wave Runners and a Harley. But I was wondering, since I am paying my mortgage and theirs, could you arrange for me to borrow the Harley now and then?<br /><br />P.S. They also need help with their credit cards, when do you want me to start making those payments?</div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left">P.P.S. I almost forgot - they didn't file their income tax return this year. Should I go ahead and file for them or will you be appointing them to cabinet posts? </div>tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-29874109453382115112009-03-03T20:58:00.000-08:002009-03-03T21:14:23.784-08:00My battle With Public School...Act One, Scene OneAs many of you know I've been frustrated with our public school system for some time. Today I was at Mackenzie's school as a parent helper and happened to get a chance to sit down with the principal for a few minutes to discuss some of my concerns. After our meeting she emailed the teacher I had some issues with and that teacher called me in to discuss it. I met with her and we had a good conversation that basically ended in us respectfully disagreeing. She called me later and told me that she had emailed the principal back with the results of our discussion and then the principle emailed her back with some things. She wanted to clear up some points and informed me that she would be emailing the principal back and she would copy that email to me. Well, she ended up sending me the entire back and forth emails between the two of them. I was annoyed that the whole high school nature of the emails and decided to respond in an email sent to both of them. I thought I would share all the email fun with you guys! Let me know what you think!<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">Here is the first email from the principal (Kitty) to the teacher (Deb):<br /><br /></span><br />Deb,<br /><br />Mrs. Tiffany Dxxxx stopped in today. She would like to meet with you. She is concerned because she feels that the standards have dropped in your classroom. She gave specific examples such as the journal does not have to be completed any longer and that students do not have to complete the agenda book. Please call her at XXX-XXXX. She would like to meet with you any day after 12:30.<br /><br />Kitty<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">Email #2<br /><br /></span><br />Kitty,<br />Thank you for the information. I meet with Mrs. Dxxxx after school today. We had a pleasant conversation regarding the changes in expectations for daily journal writing and signed agenda books. She expressed that although she has certain expectations for Mackenzie, she understands given the reasons I shared.<br />Mrs. Dxxxx also shared that she went to talk with you, instead of myself, because she wanted to express her frustrations with the school, as a whole.<br /><br />~Deb~<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">Email #3<br /></span>Deb,<br /><br />When Mrs. Dxxxx entered the main office she explained that she did not know with whom she should talk. Mrs. Shumaker ushered her into my office. In her conversation with me, Mrs. Dxxxx did not express any concerns with any other teacher or school items with the exception of your classroom. She shared other parents have come to speak with you and they did not feel that you heard their concerns.<br /><br />Kitty<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">Email #4<br /><br /></span><br />Kitty,<br /><br />I just got off the phone with Mrs. Dxxxx and I am courtesy copying her in this correspondence. Mrs. Dxxxx shared that today she walked into the office for the purpose of scheduling an appointment. She found out that you had 10 minutes or so and shared with you at that time that she probably should have had conversation with me first. She did not feel that she probably had sufficient time to "get her thoughts together." She confirmed that she gave specific examples of changes in the classroom, but maybe you "just didn't get" that she had concerns about the school and with other staff. She did not confirm your statement that "other parents have come to speak with...[me]...and did not feel that...[I] heard their concerns."<br /><br />~Deb~<br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"><br />And here is my reply with I emailed to both the teacher and the principal.</span><br /><br /><br />Mrs. Zxxxxx & Mrs. Hxxxxxx,<br /><br />I do not wish to engage in a "he said, she said" kind of discussing. I am sorry for any confusion. I will address my thoughts to both of you in this email so we are all on the same page. First of all, my concerns are with the overall education system that we have experienced, but the issues I have discussed with both of you from Mrs. Hxxxxx's class are specific examples. I am not trying to assign blame, rather I am trying to point out areas that I feel need changed or improved upon.<br /><br />I am disappointed with the expectations for my (step) daughter. At the beginning of the school year, I was satisfied that the work level and the classroom structure established was appropriate and that the level of communication would be high. I was very pleased with the way the agenda book was to be handled. My step-daughter is very bright, but we are continually battling with her responsibility and communication skills. I was relieved to know that both the teacher and I would be required to sign the agenda book daily so that I would know if she was missing work or having trouble in any areas. I was also happy with the nightly required reading and journal entries. There was also to be a small amount of take-home homework each week that could be expected. In the beginning of the year she was managing her time with these assignments because she knew they were required. Now that all of these things have been dropped as requirements, she complains that I make her do them anyway when they aren't graded or counted for credit. I feel that these are important or they wouldn't have been started in the first place.<br /><br />It is my understanding that there are some students whose parents do not help them at home and that because they cannot meet the requirements (through no fault of their own) the requirements have been dropped. While I understand this, what it means for my child is that the expectations for her have been lowered. I realize that there is no perfect solution that works for the entire student body. My concern with the education system as a whole is that as the standards are continually lowered to make every child able to succeed in every situation, the students are no longer challenged. Why can't exceptions for those students without parental support be made instead of changing(lowering) the expectations of ALL the students? Why not require the students to read nightly and fill out a reading log without parent signatures? This way the requirements and expectations are put on the heads of the students without relying on the parents. Those students without parental support are going to have to do homework someday, why not begin teaching the responsibility now? I want my daughter to be prepared for the years that lie ahead.<br /><br />While I am airing my thoughts, I have one other thing to share that I haven't discussed yet. In another of Mackenzie's classrooms some politically slanted comments have been made that I do not appreciate. Mackenzie came home to tell me that "President Bush was the worse president ever". When I asked her why she felt that way, she didn't have an answer other than that is what her teacher told her. When I asked her why her teacher thought he was a bad president, she said that the teacher didn't say. I don't think it is a teacher's place to express their political or religious beliefs to students without at least sharing both sides to the argument. As a fourth grader, my daughter believes that teachers are always right and she doesn't completely comprehend the difference between a teacher's opinion and fact. Mackenzie took the statement that her teacher made as a fact, not the teacher's opinion. I wasn't there and I don't know exactly what was said, but from several things Mackenzie has told me throughout the year, I know this teachers political views and I know they have been filtered to Mackenzie. I believe she should be learning about government and politics from a bi-partisan viewpoint.<br /><br />In conclusion, I do not want to point fingers or criticize. I do want to express what I see happening and how I feel about it. I don't think I am the only parent with these concerns or frustrations. When the community is standing at the polls, making a decision to vote for or against the levy, these are the things that affect that decision. I am concerned that as the public school system lowers expectations for students, those top students will move to private or home schools, starting a trend that will be the eventual downfall of the system. I am a product of Greenville City Schools and would like to continue to be proud of that. I want to see the school system succeed and improve. I would like be confident that my children will receive a quality education that challenges them and helps them grow and prepare for "the real world."<br /><br />Thank you both for taking the time to address my concerns. I hope I haven't come across as "just complaining", but rather as trying to express some issues that I (and others) feel are important. Please feel free to contact me with any further concerns or questions.<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />Tiffany Dxxxxxtiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-3413440905244547382009-02-08T21:27:00.000-08:002009-02-09T06:09:01.255-08:00I'm Not Ready For My 4th Grader to Learn About Abortion...Public School Outrage part 2My step-daughter came from school with a project to do a report, oral and written, on Gloria Steinem. Now I'll be quite honest, I didn't know jack about her. Sure, I've heard of her, but I couldn't remember anything specific. Anyway, Kenzie gets started on finding all of the information that must be in the report. She hops on Wikipedia and starts gathering the usual stats...place and date of birth, education, family, ect. When she gets to the part of having to explain "What are they famous for?" she calls to me for help. I go to the computer to help because she "doesn't understand what these things are." Wikipedia says, "Gloria Marie Steinem (born March 25, 1934) is an American feminist icon, journalist, and social and political activist. Rising to national prominence in the 1970s, she became a leading political leader of the decade, and one of the most important heads of the second-wave of the women's rights movement. She is the founder and original publisher of Ms. magazine, the founder of the pro-choice organization Choice USA, co-founder of the Women's Media Center, and was an influential co-convener of the National Women's Political Caucus." <br /><br />Hmmm.<br /><br />How to explain this to <span style="font-weight:bold;">A FOURTH GRADER</span>.<br /><br />Call me uptight or old fashion, but I just don't think that my fourth grader is ready to have pro-choice explained to her. Actually, I think fourth grade is a bit young to be explaining feminism to. <br /><br />It gets worse. Here are some Gloria Steinem quotes we found while searching...<br /><br />"A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after."<br /><br />"A woman reading Playboy feels a little like a Jew reading a Nazi manual."<br /><br />"Pornography is the instruction. Rape is the practice, battered women are the practice, and battered children are the practice. "<br /><br />"The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off.” <br /><br />She was quoted in The New York Observer saying "getting rid of George Bush, by any means necessary short of violence,” because, obviously, it affects everything else. “We are not in his control,” Ms. Steinem said, “so I say, fuck him. You can write your article, I can write my book. He can’t do anything about it."<br /><br />And in the same above mentioned article she was asked to give advice to young women of today. Her response? To do "whatever they fucking well please".<br /><br />She is also noted for her opinions on women's rights, the "sexual revolution," consumerism, and the "Playboy philosophy".<br /><br />As a parent, I am outraged that a teacher would give this person to my fourth grader to go research. Trust me, all of the above took me less than 30 minutes to find. There is a lot more where that came from. Luckily, I was there with Kenzie and was able to stop her research before she found the above. I sat her down and explained that I don't want her to work on this report anymore. I told her that I don't think that Gloria Steinem's accomplishments are something that she would be able to understand very well and there are things about her that are not age appropriate. <br /><br />Tomorrow, I fully intend to go to Kenzie's school and have a "chat" with her teacher. This is the same teacher I complained about <a href="http://tiffany1377.blogspot.com/2008/12/another-shining-example-of-why-i-hate.html">here</a> .<br /><br />What do you all think? Am I right to be upset about this? Should I confront this teacher? What would you say?tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-23320150800447007892009-02-07T19:29:00.000-08:002009-02-07T19:40:02.488-08:00True Cowgirl<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Y0pzxMMwtG2UPnVXOP3dTeS3TkNHkm9JRlqYPFu2oZX_PwRpj1j6ADa5JeiwtFgoAdVioh8CLSsrpGC1ggeZyZgPl3WIXrNnGxwgT91SeDRNP0bp2Es4t9Z5xJqtZJ1wm7qJeNrQBzxO/s1600-h/New+boots.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 256px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Y0pzxMMwtG2UPnVXOP3dTeS3TkNHkm9JRlqYPFu2oZX_PwRpj1j6ADa5JeiwtFgoAdVioh8CLSsrpGC1ggeZyZgPl3WIXrNnGxwgT91SeDRNP0bp2Es4t9Z5xJqtZJ1wm7qJeNrQBzxO/s320/New+boots.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300264150924907970" /></a> Charlie got her first pair of REAL cowboy boots today. She's had cowboy boot-like booties, but these are actual cowboy boots. Ropers. She was so proud of them!<br /><br /> <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUYmDygnAwd6b9dzM3HenQ9EudxnRW4gu4b5wTSJwtRLL5MzS8qBnOUJS4nDmNLozQj9z5puLAJmRHZX00vGN0uKWMEW0dTcRcBC5bmkaZZDFG2ZyjbCOvf3pa7ZuCMsyTZ_xylkSu2RAh/s1600-h/Love+my+boots.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 256px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUYmDygnAwd6b9dzM3HenQ9EudxnRW4gu4b5wTSJwtRLL5MzS8qBnOUJS4nDmNLozQj9z5puLAJmRHZX00vGN0uKWMEW0dTcRcBC5bmkaZZDFG2ZyjbCOvf3pa7ZuCMsyTZ_xylkSu2RAh/s320/Love+my+boots.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300264712660733634" /></a> She liked them so much that she didn't want to take them off. She finally agreed to take them off and go potty, but she had to hold them. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzSFsMMmTIPZbB001QVQvtESMZ-UqQgvohVZXpHOkpyv89sXWul9vz-SaFly2JANCUGHTky4DDwD92I5qNQpKbek2MdzyvDcMSPwgHfh_qnxQcsG-MQ8eaPi8qmZh-1EQsKZ3JBe4YKsQs/s1600-h/Sleeping+in+boots.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 256px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzSFsMMmTIPZbB001QVQvtESMZ-UqQgvohVZXpHOkpyv89sXWul9vz-SaFly2JANCUGHTky4DDwD92I5qNQpKbek2MdzyvDcMSPwgHfh_qnxQcsG-MQ8eaPi8qmZh-1EQsKZ3JBe4YKsQs/s320/Sleeping+in+boots.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300265395353520738" /></a><br />I finally managed to get her in her pjs, but she ended up back in her boots. She decided to wear them to bed. That, my friends, is a true cowgirl at heart!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />** The picture quality is bad b/c I had to take them from my phone.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-56505343936819234202009-02-06T20:41:00.000-08:002009-02-06T20:51:03.349-08:00It's Friday Night and My Mango Margarita is GoneHey guys!! It's Friday night and I'm the only one left awake at my house. Tonight my favorite blogtalkradio show had a Stickam party and it was a blast! If you haven't listened to <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio/uncorked">Uncorked</a>, you should go check it out. Kadi and Danielle are the hosts and they are hysterical. They talk about sex and all sorts of other fun stuff. Basically it is the kind of conversation you would have with your closest girl friends. It's exactly what I need after a full day of kid conversation. I get adult talk...it's great. I will warn you...it is definitely not a show to listen to around your kids. It's strictly adult conversation. Also...it is not always PC and not always clean language, but that is what I love about it. There next show is Monday, but you can go back and listen to the past shows. If you are fun and daring or want to be, I highly recommend it!tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-85130712215207710722009-02-05T06:55:00.000-08:002009-02-05T07:19:48.384-08:00Go Bucks!!I came across these pictures they other day and thought I would share them. To really appreciate them, you have to be an Ohio State Buckeye fan. This is from our county fair in August 2008. My hubby helped his daughter get ready for the fair parade and this is what happened...<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_tqIEGAhv9qcMA0E8V4o3-mH9ol7l3pDphNr6Fudm1GddGYGqtPIE5jqz94lGbYJQo5spcWvqEJI2yuF0P1UTWqfpu2M1OkIiyx-bXkLbgJDirkDPKPq8JkuuoB6HhWCqQnHbmJKf7c1Q/s1600-h/100_0476.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_tqIEGAhv9qcMA0E8V4o3-mH9ol7l3pDphNr6Fudm1GddGYGqtPIE5jqz94lGbYJQo5spcWvqEJI2yuF0P1UTWqfpu2M1OkIiyx-bXkLbgJDirkDPKPq8JkuuoB6HhWCqQnHbmJKf7c1Q/s320/100_0476.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5299332163194912018" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghSJtBP4XXeLYJqdYIwiBmp3VVe0f2aWzGOVUiX45cFrYtLi_YpkGXj9H0R1eBkjzBoiB3-LG3Pey3z3E8zZWujBu32ZH6ek3Lj4LTvuYAbgpiPZvWTBOhOd5rDwGsV1k3G2G6WBVIJfV7/s1600-h/100_0474.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghSJtBP4XXeLYJqdYIwiBmp3VVe0f2aWzGOVUiX45cFrYtLi_YpkGXj9H0R1eBkjzBoiB3-LG3Pey3z3E8zZWujBu32ZH6ek3Lj4LTvuYAbgpiPZvWTBOhOd5rDwGsV1k3G2G6WBVIJfV7/s320/100_0474.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5299332160595755090" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9nSulNeeDsR6AVXumwfSOld8aDD2s3JwymSIDimwUWJqoFFo9_zGg-lBSdjAKEhSKujYtosEjf6-YH_FmTH2PfkJaI8lRpsc1CVKl89QW5bzNxIDr9A-7wtlKexGhy4mVXVhNjm7Td1rk/s1600-h/100_0478.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9nSulNeeDsR6AVXumwfSOld8aDD2s3JwymSIDimwUWJqoFFo9_zGg-lBSdjAKEhSKujYtosEjf6-YH_FmTH2PfkJaI8lRpsc1CVKl89QW5bzNxIDr9A-7wtlKexGhy4mVXVhNjm7Td1rk/s320/100_0478.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5299330173953674530" /></a><br /><br />Note the detailing... the stripes painted on the horses back match the team's football helmets.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-85168279237979232922009-02-01T18:57:00.000-08:002009-02-01T19:11:35.071-08:00Someone Diagnose Me PleaseI'm feeling overwhelmed this weekend. I sure there is probably some diagnosis a mental health doctor could give me. I'm not ready to go there yet, so I thought I would let you all take a stab at diagnosing my disorder. <br /><br />Here's my problem. I overextend myself and then get so overwhelmed that I just don't do anything. It's like I go on strike from my life. I quit worrying about housework. I quit all my projects. I just sort of drift while chastising myself for being so behind, yet I don't actually do anything about it. Eventually I snap out of it, and then I go to the extreme in getting everything back on track. I'm the type that just can't bring myself to do chores on a daily basis. I wait until I can't stand it anymore and then I go on a cleaning spree. Same with projects...totally procrastinator. I've been like this for as long as I can remember. When I was little I would wait until my room was a complete disaster and then one day I would just go crazy cleaning....and rearranging furniture. When I was in college I would wait until the night before a big project was due and then pull an all-nighter. It always worked for me. I got A's in school. But now that I'm in real life with kids, a husband, a job and tons of other stuff, it's getting to be too much. How do I make myself be motivated all the time instead of just sporadically? Intellectually, I know that doing one load of laundry a day is much easier than doing 7 on the weekend. Still I put it off. I've thought about this all weekend (instead of cleaning) and I still can't figure out why I'm like this. <br /><br />Any suggestions? Are any of you like this?tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-87977536253261657222009-01-25T12:11:00.000-08:002009-01-25T12:34:55.541-08:00I Think He Likes JoeMy husband is a quality engineer at a Japanese owned company. Last night we were invited to a dinner party at his co-worker's house to welcome two new employees from Japan. I was a little nervous because I don't speak Japanese and I don't know much about Japanese culture, so I didn't want to do anything to offend them. I got a quick lesson in the basics from the hubby. I knew to be sure to bow lower than they bowed at me and to take my shoes off when entering the apartment(thank God he told me that before we left the house so I could put on matching socks without holes) <br /><br />Luckily, I had nothing to worry about. Even though I wasn't able to understand the majority of what was being said, I still manage to have a good time and feel at ease. The guys spoke a little (very little) English and they tried very hard to use it as much as possible. Also, there was alcohol served. Lots of alcohol. Apparently it is custom to arrive at a dinner party with a bottle of alcohol for the guest. The problem is that no one gets together beforehand to coordinate this so you end up with a really random stash of alcohol that doesn't always go well together. Unfortunately, it is also custom (at least to these guys) to drink the above mentioned gifts. All of them.<br /><br />Inventory of the gifts: 2 different types of beer, 4 random bottles of wine, a bottle of Jack Daniels, a bottle of tequila and saki.<br /><br />Let's just say that it was not pretty. Luckily I was driving so I was able to nurse a beer and a couple glasses of wine. Hubby, on the other hand, wasn't so lucky. He got to "try" to keep up with them. As fun as the party was, the drive home was even better. My hubby, who is usually pretty quiet, would not shut up. He talked my ear off the entire way home. He kept telling me over and over about how much he really respected and like this one guy, Joe, from work. About how smart he is. And how much he likes him. And how much he respects him. Oh yeah, and how funny he is. And how smart he is. And how much he likes him. <br /><br />And then he gets the hiccups. The really loud, body racking hiccups. But does that stop him...no. He continues to tell me (hic) how much (hic) he really likes (hic) Joe. And (hic) respects him. (hic) And how smart (hic) he is. <br /><br />I finally had to stop him and clear something up. I asked him, "So honey, do you think Joe is smart? Do you like him?" Instead of getting the joke he says, "Yes, I really do." And then went on and on some more about it. I was laughing so hard I almost had to pull over. Funny shit. I don't know, maybe you had to be there.tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-17938367209750942322009-01-18T18:34:00.000-08:002009-01-18T18:44:47.321-08:00How We See OurselvesI've been thinking a lot lately about my self esteem. I recently joined <a href="http://www.truefemme.com">True Femme</a> and started following their blog and listening to their radio show. I've never had the greatest self esteem, but since the birth of my child it has plummeted. I go back and forth with it. I am self confident and somewhat satisfied with my self, but I hate my body right now. I had always been the skinny girl who could eat anything and never gain a pound. Now I'm a good 20 pounds overweight and I'm just not comfortable with my body anymore. I know I am way harsher on myself than other people are. Most people would not consider me fat...just average, but when you've been tiny your whole life, 20 pounds is a big difference. I've come to the conclusion that I need to take charge and get back into shape ASAP. That's the other thing...I've always been athletic and now I am becoming lethargic. I need to get up and moving and start feeling better about myself. Anyone else have fitness goals they want to share??<br /><br />I wrote a "poem" about self esteem. Actually, I just took the Christmas song, "Do You Hear What I Hear" and came up with new words. I sent it to one of the authors at True Femme and they posted it!!!! Go check it out <a href="http://www.truefemme.com/2009/01/christmas-carol-true-femme-style.html">here</a> and let me know what you think!tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-57410461051669727092009-01-15T09:54:00.000-08:002009-01-15T09:57:34.777-08:00Ummm....Gagging here...Don't Read This if You Don't Have an Iron Stomach!This just disturbs me. You HAVE to check <a href="http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/food/strangest-new-food-concept-cooking-with-semen-347495/">this</a> out and let me know what you think. Seriously...what next?tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-89150988438220043442009-01-13T19:00:00.000-08:002009-01-13T19:12:38.587-08:00My Newest AddictionIf anyone needs to reach me on Mondays, Wednesdays or Fridays from 2 - 2:30pm (Ohio time) that's just too damn bad. You'll just have to wait. Two of my favorite bloggers, <a href="http://www.truefemme.com/">Kadi</a> and <a href="http://www.cowgirlchiconline.com/">Danielle</a> have launched a <a href="http://www.truefemme.com/">new website</a> and <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Uncorked">radio show</a> on blogtalkradio. It is seriously the funniest thing I've listened to in a long time. It's not a show for the kiddies and that may just be what I like the best about it. They cuss, they're crass and they would both know right off the bat that those are compliments. They talk about real stuff and put it all out there. As a mom of three, it is so nice to get a dose of "adult conversation". Now, it only they could do the show EVERY day for about 12 hours!<br /><br />Check out the upcoming event!! (details copied from their blogsite)<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />Friday: We will celebrate the launch of Uncorked and the pre-launch of True Femme. The night is ours to hang out and get crazy! Trisha, of MomDot, will be joining us for some uncensored fun and live webcam action. We will be confessing our deepest secrets, unveiling the new BloggersGive venture and giving away prizes! The party starts at 6pm PST on www.stickcam.com/uncorked. You can RSVP here, using Mr.Linky. We hope to see you all on Friday night! Anybody who links back to us or blogs about this, will get an extra entry to win a special prize during the show!</span><br /><br />Check them out...I dare you not to shoot milk out your nose!tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6707638067398378510.post-48698871894017632702009-01-10T19:37:00.000-08:002009-01-10T19:45:25.429-08:00I Might Have Found Charlie's Pony!!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_fJoWWLI3EmkCLTysw9ok4TRr9jzvPlrmbHjrgHlI-dtJM2BukBsNTXgNykgyVqFoKmF2uAVqTUnYDoFvCmYp2-KeZ5PN66PUolUMS8VlvhJRGmgPoI4SXqHCiy00WcIFs9dsNeGzhlO3/s1600-h/Fancy.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_fJoWWLI3EmkCLTysw9ok4TRr9jzvPlrmbHjrgHlI-dtJM2BukBsNTXgNykgyVqFoKmF2uAVqTUnYDoFvCmYp2-KeZ5PN66PUolUMS8VlvhJRGmgPoI4SXqHCiy00WcIFs9dsNeGzhlO3/s320/Fancy.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5289877221302313794" /></a><br />I'm so excited! We have been looking for a pony for Charlie to get started riding on. I want something small enough for her, but big enough to last her many years. I want something slow, quiet and broke. I don't want to spend too much money and it wouldn't hurt if it was cute. Not asking for much, am I?<br /><br />I think I may have found her! She is an eight year old cross between a pinto and an appaloosa. She is kind of palamino in color (my favorite). She has been owner by the same family for the past 6 years. Their kids ride her and she is very broke. The mother was in an accident and no longer rides, so her kids have lost interest. I talked to her on the phone and she has sent me videos and pictures. So far everything sounds great. Unfortunately it is a 3 hour drive to go see her and the weather here SUCKS. As soon as the weather breaks, we are going to go check her out. <br /><br />What do you think?tiffany1377http://www.blogger.com/profile/03506314825952108686noreply@blogger.com3