Monday, November 24, 2008

You Didn't Know We Were This Talented, Did You?

Check it out!! The whole family performing a little number just for you!!

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Rabid Frothing at the Mouth Subsides

Lordy, I was pissy last week. I don't know what my problem was. Oh hubby. Okay, okay, that's not entirely fair. It's been a really hectic and stressful time. My dad had open heart surgery, so I've been doing his work and my own at the office, plus trying to help out them out at home as much as I can. Levi started a new job and has been working crazy hours. Needless to say, we're both a little stressed and edgy.

Well, Saturday night I finally decided it was time to talk b/c if I didn't get some things off my chest I thought I was going to lose it. I was actually surprise b/c we were able to have a civilized conversation without anyone losing their temper (Holy crap batman...I think we're growing up). Anyways, we discussed what was bothering us and tried to come up with some solutions. Unfortunately for now, some of that solution includes, "suck it up", but at least we are going to try to be a little more sensitive towards each other.

I do have to admit that while I was so busy being pissed off at him, I didn't bother to take into account the fact that in return I was being bitchy, which made him more of an asshole, which made me more of a bitch, which made him more of an asshole, which made me more of a get the picture. Hehe.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Doormat Searching For Answers

Why do I let myself become a doormat for some people? Namely, my husband. How did it get this far? I love him, but little by little I love myself less. I don't think he does it intentionally. It starts out with me doing something I don't have to do, just to be nice. Then before I know it, what started out as a favor has become a responsibility. Then before long, I have a long list of things that I do so he doesn't have to and I resent it. I'm tired, I'm overwhelmed and I'm starting to fight depression.

Monday, November 3, 2008

WTF Baby Mama Drama

I haven't blogged yet about my husband's ex-wife and the mother of my stepkids. The back story is so long and drama filled that I just haven't felt like tackling it. Not only would it take forever to explain (I should just write a book), but we've gotten past the major drama of it and I try not dwell on it. Anyway, all you need to really know to understand this post is the following...
1. My hubby was married brief to his X (I'll call her Mikki) and had two kids, a son who is 6 and a daughter who is 10 in a couple of weeks.
2. The kids live with us most of the time even though the official arraingment is shared parenting.
3. "Mikki" has a good job, but does not manage her money well. This year she has had her house forclosed on and her car repoed. She doesn't contribute for the kid's expenses (much).

So, on with the story...

The kids spent this past weekend at her house and came home last evening with breaking news. This is the conversation that I had with my step-daughter...

Stepdaughter comes running in the house: "Guess what? I'm going to have another baby brother or baby sister! Mom is pregnant."

Me: "Really?"

SD: "Yup. She's been pregnant for six months, but she didn't want to tell us until she was really sure."

Me: "Wow. That's exciting."

* At this point she ran off to her room and the conversation continued later that night when she brought it up again.

SD: "I can't believe I'm going to have another brother or sister!"

Me: "Yeah, that's pretty exciting."

SD: "You know, mom didn't do it the normal way."

Me: "Do what the normal way?"

SD: "Get pregnant."

**At this point I was really concerned about where this was going to go.

Me: "Oh really, what do you mean?"

SD: "She didn't have....(pause) know....S - E - X (whispered spelling)

Me: "Oh she didn't, well how did she get pregnant then?"

SD: "I don't know. She said it just happened."

ARGHRGH!!!!! For the love of God. Seriously???? She seriously told a 10 year old that it "just happened"?? That's great, just great. She's freakin 10. She knows how it works. Way to take responsibility. Just another example of her fine parenting skills. Unbelievable.

I am still in shock about this whole thing. I really don't know how she is going to do it. She works 3rd shift, so she's going to have to find a sitter. She doesn't ever have any money now. They live in a two bedroom rental. She has a tiny little beat up car. She doesn't do hardly anything for the two kids she already has. She smokes like a the house. I feel so sorry for the poor baby being brought into her world.

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